Is My Relationship Toxic?
Take the Toxic Relationship Quiz to find out!

DESCRIPTION:  This quiz is designed to give you an idea if your relationship (past or present) is so unhealthy it could cause you harm.  Long-term relationships with highly toxic or narcissistic individuals can be incredibly damaging.   These profound impacts are called Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome (NAS) or Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD).  

DISCLAIMER:   It’s important to remember this quiz is intended for awareness and educational purposes only.  It is not a medical diagnosis, official result, or healthcare recommendation of any kind. To discuss a medical situation or diagnosis, please see a medical professional. 

DIRECTIONS:  Please read each statement carefully, then select the answer that shows how frequently you experience it in the relationship.  To evaluate a past relationship, select the answer that shows how frequently it occurred in the past.

Welcome to your Toxic Relationship Quiz

Are there threats or dramatic ultimatums?  (Example: “If you can’t even show enough respect to give me an answer, I’m walking out that door!”

Do they blame you for nearly everything and point out how it is your fault?

Do they want your life to completely revolve around them and their needs, and if it doesn’t, they get angry or pout?

Has the relationship been wonderful at times but quickly can turn ugly?

Do they “one-up” you or give insults disguised as compliments?  (Example: “Congratulations!  You figured it out.  It’s about time, I learned that in kindergarten!”)

Are your pleas for attention or understanding frequently discounted, rejected or somehow it turns to be hurtful for them?  (Example:  A wife asks her husband,  “Can you fix the broken stairs?  I got hurt again.”   He replies, “There you go again making make me out to look like a lazy husband."  

Do they claim to know what you are thinking or what is best for you?

Do they frequently make you feel unimportant by constantly being late, changing plans, ignoring your repeated attempts to reach them, or by not keeping promises?

Does it seem like they only help or serve you if they can get brownie points from it in one way or another?  Do they serve other people in ways they no longer help you?

Do you find yourself feeling crazy or questioning your own reality or perceptions when you are around them?  Do they insist you think things that you don’t?

Do they tell you messages like you're just being too sensitive or dramatic and you just need to be more understanding with them, less dramatic, get past it, or give them a "re-start"?

Do they call you a narcissist or tell you that you are always making it all about you?

Do you constantly feel on edge around them?

Does it seem like the longer you have been in the relationship the less of your former self you are?

Hit SUBMIT then Scroll UP to see your result!

What do your results mean?

14-16  Healthy

17-20  Relatively Healthy

21-30  Likely Toxic

31-42 Toxic

If you are unsure about this result, or it doesn’t seem right to you, I encourage you to check out the signs of a toxic relationship.  This is another useful way to evaluate your situation.  Please contact me if you would like to discuss your results.  I’d be happy to give you information about the scoring or explain how your result was reached.

DISCLAIMER:   

It’s important to remember this quiz is intended for awareness and educational purposes only.  It is not a medical diagnosis, official result, or healthcare recommendation of any kind. To discuss a medical situation or diagnosis, please see a medical professional.

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Bonnie Ronstrom

Bonnie Ronstrom

I'm a certified life coach, victim's advocate, and pastoral counselor. I specialize in providing Christian, trauma-sensitive narcissistic abuse recovery services for individuals, churches, and Christian ministries.

Important! Coaching, Christian counseling, and advocacy is not a replacement for medical, mental healthcare. Please see a licensed medical provider if you need mental health services such as the diagnosis and treatment of a mental illness.

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