Spiritual Abuse Recovery

Trauma-Informed Services

Hi!  Are you looking for personalized support to help you recover from SPIRITUAL ABUSE?

I’m so glad you stopped by. 

Maybe you have been endlessly Googling topics about spiritual abuse or watching videos, yet your still struggling to heal.  

Maybe you feel alone, frozen, and unsure of what to do or where to turn.

Many of us come to a point in our healing where we need individualized support and personalized insights to continue moving forward.

We all need…

compassionate and reliable support, help finding clarity in what seems to be utter chaos, hope restored, encouragement, answers, validation, calming tools that actually work, and to know exactly what steps to take to find freedom both physically and mentally.

If you’re ready to have someone who is on your side to gently and compassionately guide you through the recovery process,  I’d love to talk.

I specialize in providing trauma-informed professional coaching and non-clinical Christian counseling services.



Here is a little bit of information about my approach:

I believe we are all beautifully unique, including YOU, so a “one size fits all” approach often isn’t helpful and can even be hurtful. So, instead of using a cookie-cutter plan, I enjoy working together with you to create a path forward that considers your unique personality, challenges, and strengths.
I believe that you are the expert on you. My role is to deeply listen and learn about you so that I can provide the guidance and support you need to get to where you want to go. The best growth and healing occurs in a space where you feel free to ask questions, disagree, and talk about what is helpful and what isn’t.
I believe every person is valuable. Unfortunately, trauma often causes us to confuse the impacts of trauma with our identity. When this happens, we are left feeling deeply ashamed, hopeless, crazy, and weak. I value you, and I want to create a safe space where you can feel and know your value too!

The term “spiritual abuse” covers a wide variety of experiences. 

Below are some that I specialize in: 

(This list is not complete, so please ask about specific groups if you don’t see them listed here.)

Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement (IFB)

Bill Gothard (IBLP & ATI)
Quiverfull Movement
Patriarchy - Umbrella of Protection
Fundamentalist Colleges


SOZO (Bethel)
Biblical Counseling (Nouthetic)
Various Others

While certainly not everyone associated with these organizations and movements are spiritually abusive, their organizational structure, function, use of Scripture, or training methods, can make them very appealing to predatory, abusive, and narcissistic individuals.  

These movements and organizations not only can provide abusers with the perfect hunting grounds to find their victims, but their teachings and cultish structure can support and conceal the physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual abuse of victims.

When victims do speak out, far too often they are vilified, demonized, rejected, smeared, and defamed while the abuser is coddled, protected, hidden, supported, and even rewarded.

What is Spiritual Abuse?

Spiritual abuse is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that occurs when a spiritual authority seeks to control and manipulate others for their own advantage.   It can occur in families, churches, ministries, groups, schools, cults, movements, and any other relationship where the victim perceives the abuser to be in a position of spiritual authority.  

Spiritual abuse frequently occurs in faith-based programs, organizations, or movements where high levels of toxicity and narcissism are present in one or more individuals in positions of influence.   When there is one or more leaders with strong narcissistic characteristics, they can then create an entire network of members who are actively or passively involved in the abusive system. Other times groups can have beliefs and an organizational structure that are highly attractive to abusive individuals

I specialize in providing trauma-based recovery services for those who have experienced spiritual abuse in  churches and ministries. 

Choose Between Recovery Coaching & Pastoral Counseling

Important! Coaching, Christian counseling, and advocacy is not a replacement for medical, mental healthcare. Please see a licensed medical provider if you need mental health services such as the diagnosis and treatment of a mental illness.

Find Hope. Find Help. Find Healing.


One-on-one support is designed to give you the safe space you need to catch your breath, sort things out, and find much-needed peace in your life. There’s no pressure. You’ll receive lots of support, validation, helpful information, gentle encouragement, and a roadmap that will guide you to overcoming abuse.

You’ll start to feel better as you better understand what is happening and learn how to move forward. You’ll discover ways to manage the intense impacts of abuse, find connection and stability, and develop the skills and confidence you need to move forward.

Bonnie Ronstrom

Bonnie Ronstrom

I'm a certified life coach, victim's advocate, and pastoral counselor. I specialize in providing Christian, trauma-sensitive emotional, spiritual, and narcissistic abuse recovery services for individuals, churches, and Christian ministries.

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