Narcissistic Abuse Quiz
Am I a Victim of Narcissistic Abuse?

Take the Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome Quiz

Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome is the name given to a group of symptoms that can occur after being in a long-term relationship with someone who displays strong narcissistic or toxic traits. While it is not a medical diagnosis, reviewing these symptoms can help you better understand what you may be experiencing.

Directions:  Please read each statement carefully and select the answer that best reflects how often you have experienced each item in a past or present long-term relationship with a toxic individual.

Disclaimer:  This quiz is intended for awareness and educational purposes only. It is not a medical diagnosis, official result, or healthcare recommendation. If you need support with a medical or mental health condition, please contact a licensed medical professional.

Feeling ongoing anger, fear, or guilt


Feeling jumpy, irritable, or easily startled


Feelings very upset or having physical reactions (e.g., heart pounding, trouble breathing, or sweating) when something reminded you of a stressful experience from the past


Feeling detached from people and things around you


Feeling humiliated or ashamed by an individual or a group


Feeling that things are your fault


Feeling stuck on autopilot or just going through the motions it takes to stay alive


Difficulty remembering things


Difficulty concentrating or sleeping


Difficulting doing things that you need to do


Struggling with an addiction (food, sex, alcohol, shopping, drugs, etc.)


Being stalked


Being pressured into sexual activities


Suddenly acting or feeling as if a stressful experience were happening again (as if you were reliving it)


Repeated disturbing thoughts, memories, dreams, or images of a stressful experience in the past


The need to avoid thoughts, people, or situations that remind you of a difficult experience


Loss of interest in things that you used to enjoy


Experienced being stalked


Things you need like money, food, hygiene items, etc. kept from you or controlled by someone else


Living in fear of another person for an extended time

RESULTS CAN TAKE A SECOND TO LOAD

Difficulties with Emotional Regulation

  • Excessively intense emotions 
  • Unable to feel anything in situations that normally would stimulate an emotional response
  • Difficulty labeling or understanding emotions
  • Avoidance of emotions
  • Persistent sadness
  • Explosive or inaccessible anger
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Chronically numb
  • Lack of appropriate emotional response in certain situations
  • Unable to manage sudden changes in emotions
  • Struggle to calm after high or low emotions are experienced
  • Emotional reactions disproportionate to the present situation (emotional flashbacks)

Difficult with self-perception

  • Believe they are all bad or fundamentally flawed
  • Take personal responsibility for what happened to them
  • Believe they did this to themselves, so they are unworthy of kindness, love, or help
  • Think they are nothing more than what happened to them
  • Think they are in the way or are a burden to those around them
  • Believe they differ completely from other people
  • Believe that the person they were before the abuse occurred is gone forever

Interruptions in Consciousness and Dissociation

  • Poor memory of traumatic events (even ones previously recalled)
  • Remember traumatic events in an order different than they occurred
  • Feel disconnected from their own body or thoughts
  • Feel unreal or that everything has suddenly changed (Example:  things seem brighter in color, larger, farther away, or like a movie)
  • Lose chunks of time
  • Chronic but often intermittent difficulties with memory
  • Emotional flashbacks
  • Body memories

Difficulty with Relationships

  • Profound feelings of isolation and difficulties knowing how to relate to others
  • Difficulty trusting anyone or knowing who can be trusted
  • Trust too easily and indiscriminately
  • Constantly search for someone to rescue them
  • Unintentionally seek out people who are hurtful or abusive
  • Abruptly abandon relationships that are going well
  • Continue relationships that are hurtful or abusive

Misperception of One’s Perpetrators

  • Surrender control to one’s abuser
  • Believe they will always be under the abuser’s control
  • Believe the abuser knows better than they do what is best for them
  • Experience deep sadness or profound guilt after having left the abuser or even thinking about leaving
  • Deep attachment to the abuser’s charming or public persona
  • Believe that since everyone else likes the abuser, they must be the problem
  • Believe is it shameful to think badly of the abuser or that it will make something bad happen
  • Incessantly longing for the abuser to love them
  • Excessively working for the abuser’s love and approval
  • Persistent anger or hatred for the abuser
  • Recurring thoughts of revenge
  • Incongruent feelings toward the abuser (feeling that dramatically shift and can be polar opposites like love and hate)

Disrupted World View and System of Perceiving the World

  • Difficulty believing (or even hoping) that justice will ever be served
  • Doubt there is any genuine goodness or kindness in anyone
  • Believe that all goodness has selfish motivations
  • Believe they must have come into this world to be one of the ones that are only meant to be hurt
  • Profound level of despair
  • Inability to assign meaning to suffering
  • Inability to believe life can get better
  • Dramatic shifts perception of the world

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