Spiritual abuse can be subtle, confusing, and complex to name. This quiz is designed to help you reflect on possible signs of abuse in a relationship with a pastor, ministry leader, or spiritual authority. While not a clinical tool or formal diagnosis, it may help you better understand what you’ve experienced and give language to what felt off or harmful.
Directions:
Please read each statement carefully and choose the response that best reflects how often this has occurred in a past or present relationship with a pastor or spiritual leader.
Disclaimer:
This quiz is for educational and awareness purposes only. It is not a medical diagnosis or professional evaluation. If you require clinical support, please contact a licensed medical or mental health professional.
Does your pastor, leader, or spiritual mentor make you feel fearful of questioning them?
Have you been told that obeying leadership is the same as obeying God?
Do you feel pressure to stay silent about concerns for fear of being labeled rebellious or divisive?
Are you discouraged from thinking for yourself or interpreting Scripture personally?
Have you experienced shaming, manipulation, or guilt-tripping in the name of “correction” or “accountability”?
Does the church or leader isolate you from people who raise concerns or think differently?
Have you been told that suffering under their authority is part of your spiritual growth?
Do you feel confused or emotionally unstable after conversations with this leader or group?
Have you ever been punished spiritually (e.g., prayer withdrawal, ministry exclusion) after voicing a concern?
Is loyalty to the church or leader emphasized more than your relationship with God?
Do you feel like you are never good enough or “spiritual enough,” no matter what you do?
Has your church or leader used Scripture to justify controlling or harmful behavior?
Do you feel afraid to leave the group, believing bad things might happen if you do?
Do you feel afraid to leave the group, believing bad things might happen if you do?
Has the group used your personal information or confessions against you?
Have you been told not to trust outside sources like counselors, therapists, or even family?
Do you feel emotionally dependent on the leader or church to feel okay with God?
Has someone spiritualized abuse by calling it “discipline,” “refinement,” or “submission”?
Do you feel like your identity has become wrapped up in the group or leader’s approval?
Are you afraid to share your experience, fearing people will not believe you or will blame you?
Have you been led to believe that questioning leadership means you are questioning God?
