60 Common Questions Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Ask

By: Bonnie Ronstrom
Willow Life Coaching and Counseling, LLC

  1. How can I stop thinking about them all the time?
  2. How did this happen?
  3. Are they a narcissist?
  4. What’s going to happen next?
  5. What should I do now?
  6. Am I crazy?
  7. How can I let go of them?
  8. What if I’m the narcissist like they say?
  9. Can I even say I’m a victim of narcissistic abuse if they haven’t been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
  10. What am I going to do now?
  11. How can I keep from getting into these types of relationships?
  12. How can I calm myself down?
  13. What do I do when nobody else would ever believe how they abuse me?
  14. What are they going to do next?
  15. What do I do if they cry and apologize?
  16. What do I do if I contacted them?
  17. Why do I feel so out of it and forgetful all the time?
  18. Why do my emotions come on so strong all of a sudden?
  19. How do I get past the guilt I feel?
  20. Why can “little” things send me into a tailspin?
  21. How do I stop living in what feels like a fog?
  22. Sometimes my mind just keeps spinning around.  How do I stop it?
  23. How do I stop a flood of conflicting and confusing thoughts and feelings?
  24. How do I know who I am?
  25. Why doesn’t anything give me much pleasure now?
  26. How do I get peace inside, so I can just live my life?
  27. How do I handle co-parenting with them?
  28. Am I just paranoid or could my friends and family be contacting me just to get information to give to the narcissist? 
  29. What do I do if this person is family?
  30. What do I do if this person is spreading lies about me?
  31. Why are so many of my friends and family siding with them against me?
  32. What do I do if they are turning my kids against me?
  33. Why do they go from nice to nasty and back again?
  34. What can I do so they won’t get so upset all the time?
  35. I’m not perfect either, so how can I expect them to be?
  36. Do they love me or care about me at all?
  37. How can I miss a person so much who treated me this way?
  38. How will I know if the changes are real this time?
  39. Will they change?
  40. Will they go back to who they used to be? 
  41. How can I stop missing this person?
  42. How can I let go of my ex?
  43. How do I move on?
  44. How can I get away when I feel too guilty to leave?
  45. How will I know if they have changed if I go “no contact?”
  46. What do I do if they are stalking me?
  47. Will they come after me if I file papers?
  48. Is it ok to go, “no contact?”
  49. How do I get them to stop contacting me?
  50. How do I break the trauma bond I have to them?
  51. Am I sinning if I leave my marriage?
  52. What do I do if my narcissistic parent is aging, and they need my help?
  53. Why is marriage counseling with them not working?
  54. How do I explain to family and friends that marriage counseling only makes things worse?
  55. How do I get over the shame I feel at a failed marriage?
  56. What do I do when people say going “no contact” shows I am bitter and haven’t forgiven them?
  57. Since I’m committed to my marriage, what can I do to help them learn how not to abuse me?
  58. What do I do if my church is siding with them against me?
  59. What do I do if everyone else thinks they are a wonderful Christian and would never believe the truth about them?
  60. Isn’t it failing to honor your parents to go “no contact” with one of them? 

About Me

Bonnie Ronstrom

I’m a certified life coach, victim’s advocate, and pastoral counselor. I specialize in walking toward healing with those harmed by toxicity, narcissism, and spiritual abuse.

My passion is to provide the validation, support, training, and resources individuals and organizations need to overcome the devastating impacts of toxicity and abuse.

Whether you need a one-time consult or a place to heal, I look forward to meeting you and exploring how we can best work together. I work with clients from all over the world through virtual, trauma-informed coaching, Christian counseling (non-medical), groups, training, and consulting services.



Willow Life Coaching and Counseling, LLC does NOT provide medical services. Please see a licensed medical provider if you need medical and mental health services.

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