Renewing Our Minds Part III: Protecting Our Investment


A Mini-Bible Study for Survivors of Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse

Renewing our minds is the key to healing from emotional and narcissistic abuse. A renewed mind brings the hope, peace, and purpose that we all need. Renewing our minds takes an intentional and consistent investment in the process. 

Sadly, anything of value is always a target for theft. A renewed mind isn’t exempt. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”  Satan’s goal is to stop our process of mind renewal and keep us from obtaining the immense benefits God has promised us.

What does the devil use to interfere with our mind renewal?

  • Weakness – He strikes when we are already down. In our weakest moments, he will tempt us to believe lies about ourselves, God, and others.  

  • Confusion – He mixes just a bit of a lie with the Truth to try to make us miss the fact that we now believe a lie.

  • Doubt – Satan is a deceiver who causes us to doubt the Truth. Doubt causes us to question if God’s promises and provisions are enough to heal our pain and overcome our overwhelming circumstances. 

  • Condemnation – It can be hard to escape the feelings of shame that come from abusive and traumatic events in our lives. This shame causes us to condemn ourselves and struggle to accept God’s forgiveness.

Many of us have spent quite a bit of time learning about toxic and abusive behaviors.  Why do we do this?  One reason is to identify manipulative and harmful behaviors and learn how to respond in ways that protect ourselves from further abuse. Just as we spend time and energy learning and preparing ourselves to stand against our abuser’s schemes, we need to do the same when it comes to the devil’s schemes. 

Ephesians 6:11 says, “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.  

Read the following verses. Make a list of all the things you can remember to think and do when Satan comes at you. 

Psalm 34:17 – “The righteous cry and the LORD hears And delivers them out of all their troubles.” 

James 4:7 – “Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” 

1 John 4:4  – “You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.” 

Psalm 44:5 – “Through You, we will push back our adversaries, through Your name we will trample down those who rise up against us.”

Luke 10:19 – “Behold, I have given you authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall hurt you.”

2 Chronicles 20:15  – “This is what the Lord says to you: ‘Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s.” 

Deuteronomy 3:22  – “Do not fear them, for the Lord your God is the one fighting for you.”

Deuteronomy 28:7  – “The Lord will cause your enemies who rise against you to be defeated before you. They shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways.”

Romans 8:37 – “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

Ephesians 6:11–17 – “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” 


When Satan comes at you, say out loud, “It’s a lie.”  For example, if you find yourself thinking, “I’ll never get past the pain of what he/she did,” then point your finger at Satan and proclaim, “IT’S A LIE!”

About the Author

Bonnie Ronstrom

Bonnie Ronstrom

I'm a certified life coach, victim's advocate, and pastoral counselor. I specialize in providing Christian, trauma-sensitive emotional, spiritual, and narcissistic abuse recovery services for individuals, churches, and Christian ministries.