Renewing Our Minds Part II: Thanksgiving Turned Inside Out

A Mini-Bible Study for Survivors of Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse

At Thanksgiving, most of us take an inventory of the blessings surrounding us, but how often do we look inside ourselves and include thanking Jesus for the blessings of who we are? Survivors of abuse often have such negative beliefs about themselves that the thought of being thankful for who they are can feel wrong.
However, 2 Corinthians 5:17 says“Anyone who belongs to Christ is a new person. The past is forgotten, and everything is new. 
Our new identity in Christ is not our past, behaviors, jobs, roles, belongings, missions, mistakes, or messages others have told us. Our new identity comes from who Jesus is because He now lives inside of us.
Listen to this YouTube video from 7:00 minutes to 12:20.
What a shame it would be for the enemy to believe more about our potential than we do.
– Priscilla Shirer
Unfortunately, emotional and narcissistic abuse leaves many survivors unsure of who they are and believing who their abuser(s) declared them to be. Believing these lies changes everything. Here is how this happens.
First, our thoughts impact our actions.
Then, our actions have consequences and impacts.
Finally, these impacts change our reality and the story of our life.
Because what we believe about ourselves changes everything, it is critically important that we renew our minds by first learning who we are and then choosing to believe these truths about ourselves. Knowing and believing the truth changes everything, too!
Read the following verses and write down who you are in Christ.
  • I John 1:12 – Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.
  • Colossians 3:12 – Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
  • Ephesians 1:7 – In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace.
  • I Peter 2:9 – But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.
  • Roman 8:1 – Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
  • Romans 8:37 – No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
  • Ephesians 2:20-For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
  • Philippians 1:6 – Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
  • Philippians 4:19 – And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.
  • I Corinthians 15:57 – But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

About the Author

Bonnie Ronstrom

Bonnie Ronstrom

I'm a certified life coach, victim's advocate, and pastoral counselor. I specialize in providing Christian, trauma-sensitive emotional, spiritual, and narcissistic abuse recovery services for individuals, churches, and Christian ministries.